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I’ve been thinking about this more in the context of the sexual revolution distorting sexual market incentives and male/female instincts. This isn’t fully thought out, but I think it’s worthwhile enough to put out here for further discussion. TL/DR: Under current sexual marketplace conditions, a woman’s loyalty is linked to her willingness to bear a man’s children, which is linked to him committing to and providing for them. Neither has much to much to do with a pre-marital dating relationship because of reliable contraception and abortion.

Yes, the negative bias thing is so real. I have a decent co-parenting relationship with my kids' dad, but it has become strained because he moved to a different city recently. He's only a little more than an hour away, but I have a lot of feelings of anger because I have a hard time accepting his justification for moving (feels like he created the situation that made him want to move by his bad choices), he is not prioritizing his boys and being there for them on a day-to-day basis, and his move has left me as a single parent most of the time when before we shared the time with the kids equally, which has massively altered my life and theirs.

Glad you dig the full Moon! He was, in his own way, as music-forward and gifted as anyone slapped with the new wave label, with the possible exception of the prodigious and prolific Elvis. But, he belongs in that era's discussion with the likes of John Hiatt, Joe Jackson, Willies DeVille, Alexander, and Nile, Steve Forbert, Robert Gordon, Tom Verlaine, and probably others! As can be seen by his hits for others, his writing was attractive to many other artists.

"someday you will do nothing and be nobody" Hey, I think you found me: a retired and very tired old man living alone and loving it. As the bumper sticker says, Retired: Nothing To Do And All Day To Do It. Am I nobody? I'm sure to most type A people that I am guilty as charged. I don't feel any more worthy or worthless than ever, but it's hard to be objective about oneself, no?

Congratulations. This sounds fantastic, can't wait to hear it. I love reading your perspective on things. As a cis white male in a 30 year marriage with a powerful PhD wife, I have a very different lived experience. I've been a stay at home Dad, cooked and cleaned, and it feels like I have a partner in life. But I'm aware this isn't the norm and your blog is one of the things I count on to continuously broaden my view with other's stories.

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Hey Tegan, Sorry if this is one of my longer ones, I have a lot to say! You talked briefly in your post about the difference in you and Sara being 12 versus being 13, I get that too but in a different way, when I was 12 was pre covid, I turned 13 at the end of 2019, so there’s that divide for me but also, for me I ‘lost my innocence’ at 14 not 13, and by that I don’t mean something else (don’t read into it), I just mean I (at 15) have a lot of mental health issues and figuring out the gender part of my identity at 14 I was beginning to understand the discomfort I felt around my body was actually gender dysphoria.

Hey Tegan (and Sara), Happy birthday! I hope it went well and having to cancel a show didn’t make it feel sucky! I personally hate it when my birthday doesn’t go as planned. I love to plan my birthday and what I and my parents will do. These days I have a very flexible schedule, but lists and organising things was part of how I felt like I had some control over my life while I was in the school system.

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